Yet the characteristics of the double
-up to the problem of "double" and its dynamics, it is very important to recognize and clarify the harmful effects of some quality-shadow dark, unfortunately very common, causing negative consequences and behavior that degrade human dignity, especially when they express themselves without control: vanity conceit, envy, ambition and deceit, as much tied together and interdependent.
For a careful and objective analysis of the behavior of people in everyday life in our society at any level, can not escape that especially the first, the presumption of vanity, is that the negative spring guide and stimulate the actions of several individuals.
What's the presumption vanity?
You could give a definition of its psychological significance, the tendency a person to belittle anyone who stands in comparison to elevate himself to shine overestimating its own merits, and not always of stable, thus giving more importance to the appearance of being.
E 'increasingly prevalent in all spheres of social life to hear people, even young, enhance its quality: the economic means, social status, level of culture, appearance, beauty, knowledge and extrasensory faculties, possession of absolute truth and so many other qualities, except the only and most important, being a ground of being, that is humility, can not be part of the logic of appearance.
In every workplace, in fact, there is always someone who wants to emerge claiming to know and be able to do all the best, to know how to organize, with excellent results and even if he has any direct control, critical and imposes its ideas; and what about what happens at the meetings of any kind taking place in communities, groups, associations, condominiums, etc .... There is always the one who knows best, or at least wants to show to know more, well-trained in her field, talk shows and making others feel at a lower level and insignificant, so much so that many retire and give the field?
E 'human on the other hand there are people who tend to overestimate rising on the other giving demonstration of superiority, but it is one thing to think and act with respect for others, another is to weigh its crushing superiority vainly with disrespectful behavior.
Even in romantic relationships is the same music, only that in such cases, such behavior is heavier and because of the real tragedies: can not long endure you who live near and almost always tries to overpower you with his personality , which is the cause of continuing conflict which can lead to dissension and division.
So who has understood the meaning of life and live it with true respect is not deceived by the vain flattery of the ego, the overestimation of one's ego, try to understand the reasons for this behavior, often very deeply rooted in the subconscious and effects also experiences in previous lives. There is always a hidden cause that justifies certain attitudes, the conscious person understands it, but whoever is not aware of, is influenced in his thinking feeling and acting.
Behavior vain presumptuous
The presumptuous, we said, overestimates himself but makes no consideration and praise to others, is full of himself, engaged in building his magnificent castle in which we hear the king, the king and the others who I am? His subjects.
How many people will follow such a cliché! And what they do to mask their weaknesses and shortcomings of character, as is made to cover them, you will hear this and conditioning in the unconscious? They use lies and deception to support their ambition for success, honors and awards for the sole purpose of deceiving himself to be worthy of any situation, to appear strong and capable of overcoming limitations, shortcomings and failures.
is why we give airs of superiority and tend to rise and appear better than others but always lurking in the heart in unconscious envy those who seem to minimize or downgrade their value even with really merits acquired real.
Envy is widespread in all areas, from work to personal relationships without boundaries or barriers of any kind, is contagious and often becomes the secret weapon with which the vanity is manifested through the thin and sharp criticism that research in the hair ' egg in every thing by highlighting, rather exaggerated, it's always to belittle others, ambition and the illusion of being more forward and make progress in their personal growth without making the right effort, if the vain has a minimum of awareness, otherwise it is a disrespectful person always ready to show off by hitting the other with accusations, reprimands and disapproval, a truly anxious and destructive to manifest and express themselves in social relations.
Yes, because developmentally mature and grow with positive results requires a lot of commitment, interest and inner work, the arrogant (vain) seems a waste of time, when he can get more easily what with the only appearance with the illusory appearance.
What is the right way to overcome the presumption?
The deception and lies, sharp criticism and disrespectful, the presumption and vanity will cease only when it develops in the hearts and minds of those who want to take the right attitude towards himself, towards life and towards his neighbor, a healthy and steady development concern and respect for themselves and especially for others, when we recognize the merits and the merits of others, that is when the other is covered by our true and sincere care and attention holding.
The most basic form of love, appreciation and consideration is balanced and well-deserved and caring for others that can be achieved even with the effort to correct some bad critical reviews, not born to be objective establishment of facts, but from superficial spirit of dislike and envy, in fact, very often, some good personal relations, constructive and lasting a long time because a word that fail at the wrong time, made a phone call, a missed appointment, suggested by the unconscious forces of the double, evoke a negative picture Friend's based only on jealousy, on the touchy on misinterpreted pride on their selfishness perhaps these negative aspects are interrupted friendships or romantic relationships of major evolutionary content regardless of the road traveled together toward goals of personal growth.
course work for recognition and processing aspects of the double, they are really so many, is challenging and continuous, but appears to be the only way to achieve the complete liberation from negative energies shadow knows how many lives that dwell in the depths of our subconscious, causing aches and pains, the distorted view of reality and move away from peaceful and wise acceptance of ourselves and surrounding reality.
This sense of separateness is NONAMORE means and the prevalence of the dark side of the person, then exactly the opposite of what we seek with all our strength: the light of awareness, the warmth of union with our higher self; words are not beautiful and impressive but the goal we want to achieve in our inner life with effort, trust and hope.
To facilitate the recognition and overcoming of all these negative aspects of the double, it was noted from experience that some self-affirmation or self-care formulas are very useful and effective:
- Vado increasingly controlling reactions, negative feelings and judgments in against persons, situations and events, my heart and my mind are warm and positive light for the love and respect for others;
- been interested and active participation ... ... .... (name of the people) recognizing quality and qualities that enrich me too, we are together on the way of our improvement and work with trust and brotherly love;
- I agree totally as they are in my character with strengths and weaknesses developed great respect, attention, care and consideration for me and for all.
- I live my life as a continuous opportunity to know my character and depth to develop the light of loving awareness and acceptance of my Ego.
The most important task of our existence is by far the recognition processing and overcoming the "double", the final goal of everyone who cherishes the freedom and independence, inner, active love, understood as an effort to recognize and help others as a fellow traveler with the same common problems and difficulties, objectives and aspirations, fears and courage, is the only way to achieve the goal together happily.
